I just want to save this article for another day. It really hit home and breaks down how kindness is so key in marriage… But in a specific way. Not in trinkets or back rubs ( gifts and back rubs still accepted!) but in interactions. Showing interest in your spouse, being happy for them and appreciative of them. Who knew this stuff would not always come naturally? It’s a really great article. I think most of us do a really good job of being kind to friends and associates but over time stop doing it for our spouse.